Titus 2


I want to apologize to anyone who finds this for taking down the blog so suddenly.
I really felt I needed a break and I was afraid if I gave fair warning I would lose my resolve.
I had 2 overriding reasons for quitting.

First and foremost I was discouraged with what was coming out of the abundance of my heart.
I needed time to reorder the things that were filling my mind.
I do not plan on feeling pressure to update this time around. If I have something to say I will say it otherwise I will try and exercise a little restraint.

Secondly, I feared, as Carmon mentioned, that I was encouraging women to gad about from house to house.
Many people have commented that it must take a lot of time to blog. Not really. Thinking and writing are not unnatural activities for me. Still if I read too many blogs I begin to feel I am wasting time gadding about and I do not want to encourage you to do that. Nor do I want to accuse you of doing that. I truly cherish the friendships that have come through the blog. Even my designated husband has new email friends from the blog. I have missed you. Thank-you for all the emails and encouragment.

I will commit to you not to pull the blog again suddenly without fair warning.

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Whatever happened to the National Do-Not-Call Registry?
It seems my phone rings off the hook. What gets me is that I pick up the phone and they expect me to wait while their computer kicks into gear. Why would I do that?

Lately, about every 30 minutes, Dish Network calls. They also write. Yesterday a man speaking very fast wanted to talk to me about entertainment.
“Sir you are wasting your time. We don’t even have a television.”
Silence. “What do you do for entertainment?”
“Read.”
“What do you mean? What do you read?”
“Everything, Sir as you can see we are not the kind of people you are looking for.”
He then starts where he left off on his sheet and begins rambling about entertainment. I said goodbye.

We got rid of our TV 19 years ago. I remember thinking to myself, “What will I do now?” At the time we were traveling all over the country. I felt the TV was my life line to any new area we lived in. Still for some reason I wanted to try living without it. It worked!!! In the last 19 years I haven’t been bored once.

What do we do for entertainment? More than just read.
We play. We talk. We work.

Give my family a ball…any size.. and a game of some sort will begin…inside or out. My dad is notorious for helping the children think of new indoor ball games.
We have been known to pitch pennies for fun, too.
We play Rook. Spades. Kings-in-the-Corner. Solitaire. Canasta. Rummy.
We play Axis and Allies. Monopoly. Sorry. Risk. Taboo. Scattergories. Blurt.
We have bonfires. Invite people over. Play tennis ball. Croquet. Races.
We build tree houses. Roads for our little cars.
We listen to music. Bach. Tim McGraw. Alison Krauss. Michael Buble. Sarah Mclachlin. Paul Overstreet. Creed. Mozart Harry Connick. Jr. Keith Green. Nickel Creek. Fernando Ortega. Bryan Adams. Jars of Clay. Steve Camp. Vivaldi.
We argue. Debate. Fight. Discuss.
We chop wood. Rotate laundry. Vacuum. Rotate laundry. Make beds. Rotate laundry. Rotate laundry. Rotate laundry. Who has time to watch TV when there is laundry to rotate? Of course at the laudromat you can watch tv and rotate. And I do have pleasant memories of watching my mom fold laundry while watching Days of Our Lives.

Pretty much anything the Sugar Creek Gang did, we do.

You don’t have to get rid of your TV to do any of those things. I am not telling you to get rid of your TV. Some of my best friends have TVies. I am just saying that around here it hasn’t been missed. Besides, if we did have a TV it would be stuck on Sportscenter and that truly would be boring.

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Barbara Curtis talks tough to mamas of boys.

Mommy Life: London and the feminization of war

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I wanted to be clever and say, “Wisdom & the Rollins,” but then I would have had to say, “Wisdom & the Rollinses,” and I can’t bring myself to it.



The theme verse for our homeschool is Daniel 1:17a, ” As for these four children, God gave them knowledge and skill in all learning and wisdom…” That became our verse when we only had 4 children but it still applies today. It really is a wonderful homeschool verse to remind us that all that we gain or learn comes from God.

Foremost on my mind this summer, as I plan the coming school year, is how can I impart wisdom to my children. How can I keep our life and our school days from being so full of projects, assignments, field trips and lessons that our knowledge to wisdom ratio is askew?

One area that hangs heavy is the children’s morning devotional time. How can I help them to make that time meaningful and not just completed?

It is abundantly clear to me that I am in way over my head and I am going to need some HELP.
The goals that I have for my children cannot be met by me. I can’t take a big shovel and pound these things into their heads, although I have tried. I am forced to admit that without a Helper I am unable to homeschool. Thanks be to God who has sent me a Helper, the Holy Spirit.

Charlotte Mason says that education is an atmosphere, a discipline, a life. In the next few days, Lord willing, I will be writing on how our family succeeds and fails in our atmosphere, discipline and life.

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I wanted to be clever and say, “Wisdom & the Rollins,” but then I would have had to say, “Wisdom & the Rollinses,” and I can’t bring myself to it.



The theme verse for our homeschool is Daniel 1:17a, ” As for these four children, God gave them knowledge and skill in all learning and wisdom…” That became our verse when we only had 4 children but it still applies today. It really is a wonderful homeschool verse to remind us that all that we gain or learn comes from God.

Foremost on my mind this summer, as I plan the coming school year, is how can I impart wisdom to my children. How can I keep our life and our school days from being so full of projects, assignments, field trips and lessons that our knowledge to wisdom ratio is askew?

One area that hangs heavy is the children’s morning devotional time. How can I help them to make that time meaningful and not just completed?

It is abundantly clear to me that I am in way over my head and I am going to need some HELP.
The goals that I have for my children cannot be met by me. I can’t take a big shovel and pound these things into their heads, although I have tried. I am forced to admit that without a Helper I am unable to homeschool. Thanks be to God who has sent me a Helper, the Holy Spirit.

Charlotte Mason says that education is an atmosphere, a discipline, a life. In the next few days, Lord willing, I will be writing on how our family succeeds and fails in our atmosphere, discipline and life.

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What she said:

The Common Room: Peer Pressure

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I have a tendency to speak in quotes and rhymes so please forgive my title and No, I will not give you a bar of soap if you catch the reference.

So what did you wear this morning? Did you know ahead of time exactly what you would put on or did you agonize over the decision? Did you dress up or down? Did anyone notice what you were wearing? Did you consider others or just yourself?

Last week I listened in on an email discussion on how we should dress for church. At first glance it didn’t seem like a big deal but by the time everyone jumped in I realized we all had different ideas about what dressing for church meant.

Right out of the starting gate someone said, “You should dress as if you were going to see the King,” quoting RC Sproul Jr, I think. Sounds easy enough. But for some people dressing up means….way up and for some people dressing up means clean and neat. There are so many issues that escape the box at this point the subject quickly deteriorates into pandemonium.

But you don’t have to live in a box to know that something is wrong with the way we dress for church. For many, homeschooling moms included, dressing up means the skirt hem moves up the most. For many clean, neat and stylish quickly becomes vanity fair. The one-income family is now faced with the dreaded fear of becoming a stereotype. What to wear? What to wear?

I have a little confession to make. I wore a jumper. A jumper to church. A jumper to church in the morning.

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I have something I want to discuss today that may step on toes or sound not nice. I really wish I were a nice blogger like Miz Booshay but sometimes I get opinionated. As humans and as Christians, we can be a diverse lot. Hopefully, we can learn something from each other when we see how things look from another angle.

Emily and I were invited to a girls club last night. It is called Keepers at Home. I hesitate to even put up the web link as I have some serious issues with it. Emily and I need time to work on crafts and skills. That is not something that comes naturally to me although it does to Emily. We could also use the fellowship with other girls and ladies since we live in such a masculine enviroment. On those levels, we had a wonderful evening.

BUT after the meeting and talking to Emily the red flags were flying.

When we arrived home Emily and I had a long discussion about the meeting. I told her that I had a few cautions that I needed to talk to Papa about. During the discussion she told me of a few things that had happened to her. More red flags. For those interested in emotional rants I will now share my conversation with Emily and my cautions with the meeting.

Last year the the club’s Bible study was on Proverbs 31 but this year they will be doing character qualities beginning with cheerfulness. Goodness knows Emily and I could use a little work in that area. But, as some of you know, I have issues with even using the term: character quality. It may seem strange to you but just the fact that they used that term was enough to give me a big giant pause. The Bible study on cheerfulness would center around a journal you would keep for 30 days rating yourself on cheerfulness and writing down examples of success and failure. Sounds like something Thomas Jefferson or Benjamin Franklin might have done. Unfortunately the Bible tells us in Colossians 3 that these sorts of things while having the appearance of being helpful are no real help in overcoming the flesh. I don’t want Emily to be a good girl, I want her to be a little girl filled with the Holy Spirit and I don’t want her to confuse the two.

Those are some of the things I told Emily. Then she opened up and told me a few things.
The little girl she hung out with was about a year older than her. Emily is only 10. This little girl found out that Emily and I are reading Little Women. She let Emily know that Little Women was outlawed in their house.
At this point Emily said, “Yes, my mother has some problems with some of Little Women but we just talk about it.”
The little girl piped up, “Yes, there are boy/girl relationships in Little Women and that is bad.”
Emily said, “No, I think my mother doesn’t like the fact that the March girls are trying to earn their own salvation.”
I was very happy to hear that Emily had understood my slight comments about the girls forgetting that the wicket gate was Christ and not self-effort.

The little girl went on to tell Emily that they did not read any fiction and that she was reading a book about how the Catholics had killed Baptists and how Emily would be killed too if she lived back then. At this point, I mentioned to Emily that a few Presbyterians were killed, too :sad_wp:
The little girl then said she wanted Emily to read the book . She described in graphic detail some of the ways girls were killed (stretching & that sort of thing) and mentioned the book gave her nightmares. The girls came up to me and asked if Emily could read the book, too. I was dumbfounded. The whole point of reading fiction is so that we can learn these hard realities when we are young with out sensationalism or nightmares. I have read Trial and Triumph out loud to the children and we have talked about these horrible things, but, that child needed a good strong dose of Tanglewood Tales before being let loose on the inquisition.

This little girl then proceeded to write on a board that had “Do not write” written on it.

This gave me a good chance to talk to Emily about obeying being better than sacrificing. We talked about seeking first Christ’s kingdom and HIS righteousness.

After talking to Tim, he said I could go one more time in case it is not as bad as all that and because we really did enjoy ourselves but he personally thinks the self-righteousness displayed in that sort of thinking is more dangerous for Emily than blatant sin.

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The first essay of I’ll Take My Stand is by John Crowe Ransom and entitled, Reconstructed but Unregenerate

I have already mentioned my emotional state while reading the chapter but now I would like to zero in on one particular passage which I found compelling. It begins on page 9 in my copy and continues on to the top of page 11. Interestingly, it falls nicely into the Titus 2 role of this blog which kinda sounds lame considering the content of the quotes.

It begins with this statement:
Ambitious men are belligerent also in the way they look narrowly and enviously upon each other; and I do not refer to such obvious disasters as wars and the rumors of wars. Ambition of the first form was primary and masculine, but there is a secondary form which is typically feminine, though the distribution between the sexes may not be without the usual exceptions.

Delivering a knock-put punch with this sentence:
If it is Adam’s curse to will perpetually to work his mastery upon nature, it is Eve’s curse to prompt Adam every morning to keep up with the best people in the neighborhood in taking the measure of his success.

Perhaps you aren’t cheering your husband out the door demanding he make more money to keep up with the neighbors in the way described by Ransom. But there are other ways, as SAHMs, that we crack the whip upon our husbands’ backs. When we fail to have simple tastes and simple needs we are hurting our husbands. We may like to think that we are just following some speaker’s advice but in many cases it comes down to feminine ambition. We may kid ourselves into thinking we are enhancing our husbands’ trophy case but, forsooth, we are just making a nuisance of ourselves. Being gracious in the Southern sense does not always mean having the nicest clothes but it does mean carrying yourself with grace no matter what you are wearing, even if it is the same dress you wore the past 3 Sundays.

There are a million other ways that Christian women provoke their husbands to do better wrongly.

Then this paragraph really struck my heart :
“The feminine form is likewise hallowed among us, it seems, under the name of Service. The term has many meanings, but we come eventually to the one which is critical for the moderns: service means the function of Eve, it means the seducing of laggard men into fresh struggle with nature. It has special application to the apparently stagnant sections of mankind, it busies itself with the heathen Chinee, with the Roman Catholic Mexican, with the “lower” classes even of American society. Its motive is missionary, its watchwords are such as Protestantism, Individualism, Democracy, and the point of its appeal is a discontent, generally labelled “divine.”

Ladies, do you see what he is saying? Service can be another word for ambition. History tells us that many of the former feminist advances came on the heels of do-good women’s issues. Abolition was essentially a feminist movement allowing women to leave their own sphere of sovereignty to stick their noses in other peoples’ business. Prohibition comes to mind; Carrie Nation self-righteously destroying bars. When women leave their own dominion and self-righteously begin to serve outside their sphere, bad things happen in society. From current events Mary Landrieu comes to mind. It is just sickening to watch that woman.

And fictional literature has not failed to give us the do-good woman as a caricature of true womanhood. Charles Dickens, himself a reformer, has no end of “missionary” minded silly woman in his tales.

That is why, I think, the patriarchy movement has been so dead set against progams in churches. It isn’t just that our children are getting negatively socialized….because sometimes they are not. It is that so many church programs deteriorate into woman-run do-goodism. A woman should be busy at home not busy at church. This is not to say that works of service are not a part southern womanhood. They are just performed within the proper sphere.

Now a quick reminder that I am a global thinker. I am much better with big ideas than small details.

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In the comments section on the previous post, Joanna asked a question about women bloggers discussing politics and theology.
Tim and I responded to Joanna with our own comments but there was one more thought I had that I wanted to turn into a post instead of a comment.

In the olden days, I was a serious news junkie. I loved to watch news shows and hear commentary. When we got rid of our TV, I ended up listening to the radio a lot more. But in recent days the internet has become an explosive tool for news and everything else. It has changed all of our lives for better or for worse. One reason I find it hard to step totally away from the computer is that it has simplified many aspects of my life including comparitive shopping, bill paying and banking.

I believe blogging has been a powerful force for good on the internet. I will give you one example of why. It used to be that a politician could get on TV and few people would see it and comment but most of America was easily manipulated and given only the info the media desired to dish out. If a politician made a poltical mistake Rush Limbaugh could discuss it but most of us didn’t actually see the mistake.

This week Mary Landrieu got on TV with Chris Wallace and really showed us what was underneath the pretty hairdo. I personally would have had zero chance of seeing something like that. I also have limited time. Now though because of the internet I can go agleaning. Instead of wading through the vast material on the internet I have found a few key places that can give me a scoop that I trust. So I go over to The Common Room and find out which stories the DHM is linking to. She is linking to the Political Teen and he is keeping video downloads of some of these interviews. I know that the DHM and I probably have many of the same perspectives on politics, after all she linked to Davy Crockett’s Not Yours To Give, possibly the best titled speech ever given. I don’t say, “How does DHM have time to do all this?” I am thankful that she does have time. I know from past experience on the internet for at least 5 years that her children are well brought up and impressive. I am thankful that each day she goes agleaning and that I can follow her footsteps saving me myriads of time. When Tim came home from work yesterday I was able to tell him about how funny the interview was. He said he had heard a little about it on Rush Limbaugh. I then pulled up the link for him very quickly and he watched the interview, laughing his head off. I don’t mean to imply that he is insensitive but when Mary commented that the buses weren’t used because they were under water all you could do was laugh or cry. I was happy that I could enhance his day and distill some of the news stories from the hurricane for him.

I am not a libertarian so I do not read Lew Rockwell regularly still occasionally someone over there will say something profound. I can count on Carmon to let me know therefore saving time everyday. I also think it is extremely important for homeschooling families to understand the implications of Charter Schools and Carmon is doing a great job in that area.

When someone like Judge Roberts comes along. I need to hear the real deal and I have benefitted from the many wise words other women have said on the subject. My blog is not the place to come for astute political analysis. Mostly I just make occasional comments.

As far as theology goes, I head over to Wittenberg Gate where I know I can trust Dory and usually will come away convicted by the Holy Spirit. Lately Dory has been too busy to blog but in a few weeks she will have more time and be back. I consider Dory a mentor and I greatly appreciate her maturity.

Carmon, DHM and Dory are all older women. They each display a maturity that dwarves my own. I am stretched and convicted when I read their words. Sometimes I disagree and many times I talk to Tim about what goes on in blogdom. I consider what I do and what they do “gleaning.”

The Proberbs 31 woman brought her food from afar. Ruth gleaned in the fields of Boaz. I approach blogging the way I approach everything, as a Christian woman. I believe blogging is a valid and healthy form of communication in this age of disgusting media. But I do not believe we should approach the reading of blogs without a great deal of discernment. Sure there are plenty of woman out there that probably shouldn’t be blogging but I am not going to throw the baby out with the bathwater.

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