Thu 29 Nov 2007
So you like my jazzy title? I couldn’t do any better. I am sorry.
I have been thinking in my spare moments about how to fit together, for my younger readers, the ideas of self-learning and yet rigor. I have also confused myself. I don’t think these are contradictory things but it has been hard to wrap my mind around them.
I am comforted by the fact that many spiritual principles are illustrated by dichotomies. The first shall be last, laying down your life to live, only the good die young (just making sure I haven’t lost you ;)).
I was praying about Advent. What to do this year? What to do? The last few years we have listened every morning to excerpts from Messiah (eventually listening to the whole thing). Our morning devotions centered around the Bible passage/s in the music that morning. It is a MT activity that keeps my mind engaged and happy. On the other hand, the children sometimes have the glassy-eyed look of IV drug users.
So I was praying and yesterday I began to think about ‘little things‘ and how I believed if I was just consistent with something for a short period of time everyday my children would assimilate many things over the years. This little concept hearkens back to Charlotte Mason’s ideas on the formation of habit and short lessons. I was thinking of how my children would someday thrill when they heard snippets of Messiah because they would be old friends. It is the same reason we watched As You Like it yesterday in spite of several derogatory comments about Shakespeare from the peanut gallery.
You know, the someday-they-will-thank-me shtick. (That would be a better title.)
But then the phone rang and someday was now. Somebody was asking me to burn a disc of Messiah because their computer had crashed. “Could you burn some Amy Grant (Christmas), BJ Thomas (Christmas) and the Messiah for us?”
And I said incredulously, “The Messiah?”
And the little darling on the other end said, “Yeah, I’ve been thinking about that. I am so glad that I am familiar with those sorts of things now even though I was bored out of my mind sometimes then. I really appreciate what you gave us.”
Yes, his exact words were bored out of my mind but they were the words that encouraged me. This is the very thing that Charlotte was trying to say. Thank goodness I can explain it for her
!! If we give our children living ideas and real things to learn the self-learning will take place even if is somewhat like planting a tree and waiting a long time for fruit. There are still things that can steal away the fruit from the growing plant. Planting good seed doesn’t always guarantee good fruit. There is thief who would steal and kill and destroy.
And it is still true that teaching isn’t learning. I am not one to give a spoonful of sugar to help the medicine go down. But it is the difference between giving our children an apple from Narnia and snake oil. The hard part for those of us woefully uneducated to start with is knowing the difference.
(Advent song of the week: Of the Father’s Love Begotten. I like John Michael Talbot’s version.)
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*the ideas of self-learning and yet rigor*
The everyday example which comes to mind is the fact that my children played better with their toys (learning) when I (we) had organized (personal habit of cleaning/ordering) their playroom/study. Think Ruthanne’s rotation of toys idea. So, the rigor is in keeping the background stable and the atmosphere consistent.
IMO you are right on target with the little things. The little things are not difficult in and of themselves. It’s the sticking to the routine.
Oh, how my heart is warmed by your son’s phone call. His adjective is sometimes heard in our household, although it is officially banned because one is not allowed to be bored.
Basically I think most use that term out of laziness…..a better descriptive word could be used, but that one rolls off the tongue without thinking.
Hmmm, without thinking? Have we been talking about that somewhere?
Comment by Dana (November 29, 2007 @ 8:39 am )
Off to listen to Talbot’s version of Of the Father’s Love….
I like the tune Divinum Mysterium
http://www.ccel.org/cceh/0000/x000062.htm
Comment by Dana (November 29, 2007 @ 8:43 am )
Cindy,
Just a quick second…your post came across my e-mail and I had to share my favorite version of ‘Of the Father’s Love Begotten’. You’ll have to let me know what you think. The whole CD is beautiful. Kate at Under the Sky shared and I had to buy it.
http://www.dangoellermusic.com/rec_portraits.html
By the way, Dana cut in on your shoe-in for the book give-away. :o) And speaking of little things, I was pleased in the car yesterday when I asked my son, who was engrossed in a book and seemingly not paying attention, if he knew who the composer was of the song playing on the classical station. Without missing a beat he answered, “Schubert”. It had probably been at least a year since we had listened to that piece. I was very happy..they ARE listening and remembering.
OK, gotta run so I don’t break my commitment to less time on the computer. It’s braces day for Cody, and he got his learner’s permit on Monday. Lots of excitement around here!
Comment by Lisa W. (November 29, 2007 @ 10:57 am )
I’ve been thinking these very same things this week which I plan to post about soon.
My son is taking a full load of classes at the community college next semester to fulfill all requirements for entering University in the Fall (a change of original plans).
My daughter is just beginning her first full year of homeschooling her oldest two kids where she has to report to the local school district her curriculum and such so we’ve been talking a lot about homeschooling.
What I’ve realized was the importance of the little things… precept by precept… done each day throughout many years.
Comment by Brenda@CoffeeTeaBooksandMe (November 29, 2007 @ 11:10 am )
I am so glad that your son gave you that encouragement, and thank you so much for sharing it with us. Sometimes, it can feel like we’re on a road to nowhere. It is so good to be reminded that these little things matter and will make a difference someday.
Comment by Kendra (November 29, 2007 @ 3:40 pm )
Yay! I love hearing stories of grown children asking for a CD of Messiah or what-have-you. Just this week my 21 year old asked me for a classical CD called “G’Night Wolfgang” which I had played many a night when the kids were little just before bedtime. They all loved it, but I figured that the dear CD and it’s music had been put to bed in the attic of their minds. I also gave Handel’s Messiah Family Advent Reader to this same daughter and her fiance for Advent and she’s just thrilled to share it with him. He had never even heard of Messiah (Handel’s). My eldest son and his wife also received a copy of the Reader and were delighted.
Smiling with you!
Jody
Comment by JodyC (November 29, 2007 @ 11:02 pm )
I smiled at your son’s phone call. It reminds me too, to be attentive to the everyday things…what will be carried-on.
I have a question…do you follow a particular list of Advent songs and hymns?
Comment by Roberta (November 30, 2007 @ 5:19 pm )
Roberta,
This year I am pretty excited because our church publishes its bulletin before Sunday. Today I was able to print out all of our songs and make a cd for our long Sunday morning drive. Then the little guys and I sang the songs and they can listen to the cd while going to sleep. I try to sing the same song everyday for a week and then each day I let them pick out a song. Our evening Advent devotions usually have a selection picked out but we haven’t settled on what we are using for that.
Comment by Cindy (November 30, 2007 @ 5:28 pm )